After publishing the last article – how to change negative inner conversations – I received a specific question:
I wonder, how could I do this in the morning to help myself to get out of the bed. This is very hard for me. To get up and start the day!
As it’s something I’ve struggled with myself, I decided to write a separate how-to article.
It’s hard to get up in the morning and start the day when we have nothing to look forward to.
A change of circumstances does not bring about an improved life experience. We can change jobs or relationships, but we bring ourselves with us, and soon the new situation will feel and play out just like the old one did.
Without changing our mood and inner conversations, our actions will not produce the desired changes and results. The outer world is a reflection of the inner.
One of the best tools that I’ve discovered for changing ourselves is to change our inner conversations.
It is easy to get lost in a forest by only looking down under our feet – careful, there is a root sticking out of the ground, don’t step into the puddle, don’t trip over that tree-stump.
It’s the same story with feeling stuck in life.
Being stuck means dreading getting up in the morning to relive the same day all over again. Work that slowly drains us of energy and leaves us depleted. When the highlight of the day is eating a large meal with a glass of wine and watching TV in the evening. When we have to physically exhaust ourselves for hours in gym just to numb our feelings.
That’s stuck. And it’s a mindset.
Our daily lives can be OK – good enough job, we have friends, we do our best to lead a healthy lifestyle etc. Yet we feel stressed-out and depleted at the end of the day. Or even before noon.
We all have such out of control days. Like we are just along for a ride on a mad rollercoaster.
While other days we are firing on all cylinders all day long and are still full of energy and ready to go in the evening.
Why is that so? And how can we have more of the latter days?
The clue lies in figuring out what makes other days so full of energy and enthusiasm. What is so special about them.